Suppose tonight, after you go to bed and fall asleep, while you are sleeping a miracle happens. The miracle is that the problem or problems you are struggling with are solved! However, since you are sleeping, you don't know that a miracle has occured. When you wake up tomorrow, what would be some of the first things that you would notice that would be different and that would indicate that the miracle has happened and that your problem has been solved?
Keys to picking your miracle1. Make sure it's important to you. Pick a miracle that would make a difference in your life, noticeable to you and to people who care about you.
2. Keep it small. Make sure your miracle is achievable, not impossible. For example, "I'll go for a walk after work instead of drinking," not "I'll win a bodybuilding contest."
3. Make it specific, concrete and behavioral. When the miracle is occurring, you should be able to point it out or even count it.
4. Say what you will do rather than what you won't do.
5. Focus on how you will start your journey rather than how you will end it. Ask yourself, "what is the very first clue that my miracle has started to occur?"
6. Be clear about who, where and when. Who will be there when your miracle starts and what will they notice?
Write your answer in a place you can find it later. Then, think about what you can do tomorrow to bring those first signs of your miracle into reality. Not by drinking less, but by directly taking action to make those signs reality.
For example, if your first signs of a miracle would be that you would wake up early to make coffee for yourself and your spouse, then make sure you wake up early to make coffee for yourself and your spouse. You may be surprised by all the positive things that happen in your life from there.
1. Look for pieces of your miracle that have already happened. When was the last time that even a small piece of your miracle was happening? How did you make the miracle happen? Can you do it again?
2. Learn from your past successes. Is there a time in your life when drinking too much wasn't such a problem? How did you and others bring about those periods of time? Are there specific things you can do to make those periods happen more often?
3. Look for change that is already happening. You recently signed up for Oar. What have you been doing differently since then? Has it been helping? Can you do more of it?